“30 day” Challenge – Part two

Well I promised I would keep this short so I think it would be best to put a weeks worth of daily entries in each blog. This challenge is a 30 day challenge that does not include rest days.

Day 1: I thought I was going to die. My legs felt like jello and I struggled to complete the list of exercises. I’m not being overly dramatic and I understand that the list is not filled with majorly intense items ( it is labeled “Beginners”), but I am not used to this. I told my husband “There is no way I can do this every night for 30 days.”

The next morning I was so sore to the fact it hurt to sit in my chair at work. When I would need to get up to walk to the bathroom or get a drink of water, I’m sure it looked like I had road a horse for 8 hours when I walked. I was so sore that I scared my self out of working out tonight. I am going to extend this workout for 60 days and do every other day. You have to let your body rest.

Day 2: I worked out last night even though I was incredibly still sore from my first night workout, which was two days ago. I was dreading this all day at work and repeatedly told co-workers there is no way I’m going to be able to do this tonight – I’m too sore. When I got home I made sure to go ahead and get it done. WOW I was able to do it and it didn’t really take that much of my time. I was sore but nothing that actually stoped me from finishing the routine. I am actually excited to see if I can work out again tomorrow and not have that rest day. I’m feeling good!

Day3: I worked out and I am completely surprised that the soreness doesn’t impact or stop me from working out. I still have no clue how I’m going to be able to keep increasing intensity every day. By the end of this challenge It is going to have me do so much more than I think I am capable of doing.

Day 4-6: I actually skipped these days. I’m not happy about it, but we had so much planned this weekend and I didn’t want to give up family time. I think I am going to rest on the weekends – which yes it will increase the amount of time I am doing this “30 day” challenge. At this point not sure I even should call it a “30 day” challenge anymore. More like Never ending/Hard as crap challenge!

Day 7: (which is really Day 4 in the workout routine): Well as you know each days workout increases and is basically freakin hard/crazy. Let’s just say missing 3 days was not my best decision to make. I was hurting and exhausted at the end of it. I still have no clue how this is all going to play out but I am wanting to really stick with this one through.

AKA..Day 5: I worked out again!!! This is really an accomplishment in it’s self. I am hurting and it is getting intense, but the soreness still hasn’t stopped me from completing all of the exercises. My husband keeps telling me that you should have a day in-between to let your muscles rest, but I am trying to complete this challenge as close to the design as possible. Well see how it goes.

Day 6 – went well and yes still getting harder, but I feel so good because I have kept up with it!!! Now I’m gonna go rest!

Wrap Up: Well it is going better than I expected, and maybe this is part of my problem – low expectations or negative expectations. I can find the positive in at least I am wanting to work out, at least I am “Kinda” sticking with it and haven’t thrown in the towel. I am going to continue and lest see how this next week goes – I will only post one more – “the final” and this will wrap up my overall experience and what I gained from this challenge.

Let me know how you do with these challenges.

-J

Raising Children When is it Complete?

When you are raising your children you hope you are doing a good job, at least you are trying your best. There are times you think your making it and other times you know the “Mother Of The Year” award will never have your name on it. Being a mother has been one of the hardest things I have ever done and the most rewarding. It has been an emotional journey that’s not over by a long shot. I hate when I hear mothers/parents say “I can’t wait until they are 18” like your job as a mother/parent magically stops on that day. The role of a mother, and father, is one that is a life journey. In many ways we raise our children until we take our last breath. Now, the word ‘raise’ takes on a distinct meaning as we enter the different stages of life. Raising can be taking care of the very important essentials like: feeding, bathing, doctor visits, and providing all the necessities for survival. Raising for us also means teaching them about God and His love for them. This is done through going to church, reading the Bible, and teaching the boys about praying and having a relationship with God. Another way we raise our children is by helping them understand social norms, how to interact with others, how to balance relationships & priorities, how to treat others, and to learn the basic skills so they can be productive adults. All of these things are also modeled by you, the parent. You set the stage as the example, please understand how important this is. It’s putting action to all the words you have been saying.

Children are not a distraction from more important work, They are the most important work.”

C.S. Lewis

Because the time we get with our children to lay these essential foundations is so incredibly short, we have to be engaged. Engagement with them everyday is very important. I know many parents that spend way too much time on their own hobbies, interest, and social life that they are completely missing the little lives in front of them. Just in everyday conversations with my boys I can hear from their own words what has gone on throughout their day. You can see what is important to them, what upsets them, and hear about their passions. These conversations also come with jokes I rarely understand, but they would never know that. I love to talk with them and hear stories about their friends and what all they did that day. Now my boys love to talk, but only when they initiate the conversation or don’t have “more important” things to do. Even when they don’t want to talk I still make them because I want them to understand that what is going on in their lives is something I put as a priority. I want them to know that I will always be here to listen and truly care about even the smallest details in their lives.

Another way my husband and I keep our children as our priority is by putting our relationship as a top priority. If we do not put our relationship over our children then our children will not have the environment that they need to grow and thrive. By putting our relationship at the top of this hierarchy they find security and comfort. Parenting is not just raising our children, but keeping our family strong. The foundation of our family is built on God and the walls are our marriage.

When our children are older and out of the house the word raising will look a lot different, but we will still play a part. They won’t need us to take them to the doctor, feed them, or provide the necessities – at least we hope not. We will, however, encourage them, listen to them, and give advise when asked. We won’t try to control them, but rather give then the space they need to thrive as productive adults. You have already placed the foundation during the early years, so the hope is when you get to this point you can watch the bird fly from the nest in complete confidence that they will soar.

-J